Relationships of Convenience
Aluna Joy Yaxkin ~ March 1, 2005

The idea of convenience, and what we are willing to do, and not do, became a subject for thought the last few weeks. It was triggered by a note I received from a bookstore owner in Chicago. We were discussing the Solar Wave ( She was telling me that people would get involved only if it was convenient for them. In other words, people would not participate in events that could have potential to heal humanity and the planet if it was inconvenient.

I began to look at this idea of convenience. In my sessions with clients I began to watch for places that they were willing to settle for less to avoid the inconvenience or conflict created by shifting or changing any given situation. I began to see that a core reason why the consciousness of humanity and the state of our planet is the way it is, is because it is too inconvenient for us to fix it.

Have we become so comfortable, or should I say anesthetized, in our current situations that we are not willing make the changes needed in our lives, communities, countries and planet, to make a better life or a better world? Are we stunting our spiritual and emotional well-being just because it's too inconvenient to begin to live our lifes purpose ? Have we filled our lives up with so much doing, that we are to sedated to consider just being?

My heart would love to write about living love today, but I can't help seeing that many are settling for less than love in their relationships. Many stay in a relationships much longer than they want to, because it is simply inconvenient to leave them. It would mean they would have to go through the turmoil of losing the relationship. Many things change when we leave any form of relationship. We might have to move, change our jobs, lose a few of our friends or even wake up and evolve to the next level. Oh My!

We want a peace and harmony in the home, so we settle for less than good behavior from our children, just to get a few moments of peace. It has become inconvenient to stand up to our little angels and do what we know is right. Those little angels know this, and work us over and over controlling our lives.

Our marriage and children are understandably difficult relationships to change, since there is a lot at stake. But I have to ask WHY we allow a friends to abuse us. They treat us in a condescending ways, making us feel less than who we are? Do not support us. Are we willing to settle for half of a friendship and endure the drama or abuse that goes with the other half?

We settle for less in our jobs the same way we settle for less in relationships. We stay in a job becuase it is to inconvenient to find a new job. We have lost our passion for what we are doing but it has become to inconvenient to find our lifes work. Our bosses and co-workers take advantage of the situation because they know that we will not stand up to being over worked and being used. Why is it that we are willing to risk our health and endure in a stressful job over mere convenience?

We have convenience stores, convenient relationships, convenient online shopping, convenient jobs and live in convenient areas. But do we ever ask ourselves are we really happy? Do we ask why we are willing to settle for less? Living convenient, tidy lives packs a huge price. Are we willing to pay the price? Staying in any situation as a matter of convenience takes a great toll on our physical health, our immune system, our spiritual lives, and our emotional body. Convenience has also triggered a phenomena of global isolation and loneliness. In order to stay in a relationship of convenience, one must shut down the heart just to endure the convenience. It is no wonder why so many are unhappy, feel unwell, are tired all the time, and feel uninspired. Are we willing to shut down our heart's desires so we can maintain the conveniences of our lives? Are we letting our dreams die to maintain the status quo? Are our fantasies possible realties that we have given up on?

There are only two ways to live; either in Love, or in Fear. When we settle for less, we are not doing what is best for us; nor are we loving ourselves. We are not living in truth or love. We are actually living in fear.

If we are not willing to stand up and do what's best in our personal lives, with our family, with our community, or our country, then we are to blame for the state of our family, our community, our country and the planet.

This brings me back to where I started when I began to write this article. I have a DREAM that we can change this world in a positive way. I think it is your dream too, is it not? I believe that we can create a world of peace, harmony and balance in spite of the overwhelming outer evidence. I believe we can love our diversities; not fight over them. I believe we have it in ourselves to see beyond the differences in race, religion and culture. I believe in the power of gathering groups. I believe in the power that YOU have, and the power that I have. If we could just take a little time away from our busy lives to gather together, to multiply the power we have collectively, and DO SOMETHING GOOD! The signs are evident. We can not afford the price of convenience anymore. - Aluna Joy Yaxkin

Aluna Joy Yaxk'in . . . A Star Messenger - Earth Oracle - Soul Reader - Sacred Site Junkie was literally born awake and in the company of her guides, the Star Elders. Today she has evolved into an author, spiritual life coach, sacred site guide, alternative historian, ordained minister and modern mystic. In the Inca world, Aluna is considered a Qawaq (cow-wak), a clairvoyant or seer of living energy. Aluna acts as a spiritual archaeologist using her clairvoyant / clairsentient gifts to excavate current messages from the masters of ancient, enlightened cultures to uncover what affect this has on humanity and the collective consciousness. She is well known for her down to earth, accepting attitude that makes each one feel like they have come home. She inspires and encourages others to recognize and accept their own authentic divinity and connection to the Creator. "Our groups are family, and each one is a teacher and also a student. We work together as a team to unravel the sacred mysteries of life." Aluna coined the term "sacred site junkie" because she is one herself. After her first trip to Tulum, Mexico, her life changed dramatically, and she was sent on an entirely different path in life. Since this time, her work has been influenced by uncountable shamanic experiences in sacred sites of Mexico, Guatemala, Belize, Honduras, Peru, Bolivia, Egypt, Greece, England, Australia and New Zealand. Aluna has been leading groups in the Maya world since 1986, the Inca world since 1996, and the Egyptian world since 2008, and the mystical world of Avalon (England and Scotland) since 2007. Aluna offers Star Elder Sessions, formulates Sacred Site Essences and a free newsletter. She is the author of "Mayan Astrology" and her articles have been published worldwide. Website: Facebook: YouTube:

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Avoidance is also an illiusion that we don't want to see is really there. My motto is surround yourself with people who love and care about you and wish the others well and on thier way... wisdom from my grandmother. We don't have to judge, but as teachers we must ask them to do the WORK! I no longer waste my time on those who wish to be stuck in all that drama-there is too much to do. We can find drama anywhere. I can tell in one session if someone is willing. I'd rather be happy. It still is a choice. Blessings, Rhonda IL


Aluna!! I want to thank you for your email which is ever so timely. I just spent two weeks in a "Core Flush" program working on my core issues, shaking up old patterns and working to replace them with new more healthy ones. It was.. an amazing experience... Love, Michelle NY

BRAVO!!!! BRAVO!!!!! BRAVO!!!! March letter.......tell it like it and follow our hearts..............mas

Thank you Aluna. I've spent the last few weeks in turmoil over my job. I like what I do but not where I work. It was inconvenient to leave even though the stress was high and my health was suffering. You helped me to see common sense and tomorrow I'll hand in my notice, to begin the search for the job I want. Thanks again... Marc.

Hi Aluna Joy,   I've read RELATIONSHIPS OF CONVENIENCE. Wow! It takes a lot of courage to do that. I agree with you. I hope you are well and hanging in there. The Global Transformation ... The Paradigm Shift is in motion. Know we LIGHT workers are receiving awesome support in each moment. Moment by moment. Light, Love, and Peace Worldwide, Nan

Thank you for this. It is so timely, touching and true, even in tiny spaces of our lives. Wish you could put it out there in a wider audience. Bless, Fay

Hello Aluna Joy,    Thank you for your letter. It has come at a very appropriate time in my life. I am having a tremendously difficult time at work (making my own hell on earth) and your letter has challenged and inspired me to look at why am I settling for so little. Is it inconvenience that has lulled me into this state of compliance - where my employer takes advantage of me and I suffer greatly. Why do I stay? I keep telling myself that I am too busy to even begin looking for another job and yet when I say that out loud it makes me cringe, its such an embarrassing statement. I believe for me, this experience is about making an effort and learning to value myself. Thank you for reminding me. Hugs, Jane

In reading through this, I feel obliged to respond. This article is no doubt thoughtful and heartfelt. Yet, it seems to me she is pushing people into the same fearful place of not feeling adequate, or good enough, leaving readers with the sense that they should be doing more, being more, more loving, instead of just being! She is still preaching 'FEAR'. I believe, that at every moment, of every day, we are EXACTLY where we ought to be, doing EXACTLY what we are supposed to be doing, our ONLY obligation is to enjoy the ride. Nothing more, nothing less. We don't have to EARN our place in the Universe...we ARE there. I disagree. I believe that we are doing exactly what is best for us...until we decide to change it. The learning is...that we control all this and that we can, by focusing our energy positively,creatively on what it is we really want... change our lives in positive and creative ways, and as one learns...we all learn. NO FEAR! Her note at the beginning of the article is the the best line...It is 'right on' and says it all... I realize that...Most of you would give the shirt off your back if it would make a difference in this world.... Also, Maybe Yes, Maybe No. But, it really doesn't matter a bit whether or not you give the shirt off your back. All the really matters is that you are truly happy...period! The rest will follow.

Responce from Aluna.... Hi Op,
I don't understand why you came to the conclusion that this article leaves the reader feeling "not adequate, or good enough...... should be doing more...being more...more loving... The article was about encouraging the reader to honor themselves to the fullest by doing what is best for them. I never suggested you had to DO MORE of anything or EARN YOUR PLACE in the universe. How could you do that anyway? If you are happy, enjoying your ride, then you are not settling for less. It is pretty simple.

After thousands of sessions, I know that many folks out there ARE NOT enjoying their ride, as you put it. Many folks endure their lives instead of living them. Instead of taking back their power and doing something to change thier life, they sugar coat thier situations and keep on in a life that is slowly killing them. When we listen to society's standards we get confused. When we listen to our hearts we get clarity. I hope each will stand up and reach for what will really make them happy and healthy.... and not settle for abuse of any kind. This is how we honor GOD to the fullest by honoring ourselves. This isn't preaching fear.... it just good ol honoring ones self. But I wondered why you felt fear and felt inadequate reading this? Blessings to you ~ Aluna Joy